How I Can Help Jessica Simpson

I know, I know...With all of the celebrity news/tabloids/crap, we all think we are their secret BFF's (and talk as if we were too!) Well, I'm no exception.

By all superficial accounts, Jessica is the perfect gal...She's beautiful, talented, sweet and caring. Oh, and rich. I used to think that if I had all of those things, I would easily be able to get a man. Evidence shows (think Nick, then John, then Tony), however, that it's just not enough.

So, then, what matters? If she can't keep a guy, how can I? Well, I'll tell you... What Jessica doesn't realize (and I didn't realize for a long time about myself) was that she's not looking for an equal partner to have a relationship with...She's looking for someone to take care of her and make her feel good about herself. In essence, she's looking for a father.

When a woman has grown up with a father who uses her to meet his own needs, financial or otherwise (which appears to be the case with Jess), she finds herself constantly seeking that which she never received from her real father: Unconditional love and attention.

The problem with looking for it in a relationship with a man is that he, unless he's got his own f-d up issues, doesn't want to be a father to or have a daughter as his partner. He wants someone who is an emotional equal, meaning someone who won't lean on him to meet ALL of her needs. It's just too much pressure!

So, Jess, this is my advice to you: Get some help (like I have) from a good therapist who can show you how to deal with your daddy issues. You need to acknowledge what you didn't get and realize that a partner is not the one to give it to you. When I did, I was finally able to have a healthy relationship with a guy. And you can too, Girl!