Puck from Glee....He's a Puppy of Players!

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I used to think that guys like Puck from Glee were the very definition of "Playa." They were usually moderately to extremely handsome, would look me up and down like I was a ham sandwich and throw out lines like, "Hey beautiful! It must've hurt!" (You know...the angel falling from heaven one). Or, "Hey Baby! You look so good tonight! Can I get your number?"

You can always see the...

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05/19/2010 - 08:08
jodijett

Honesty Part 2: How we're actually BIG FAT LIARS!

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(P.S. Honesty Part 1 is actually titled "The Secret to Making a Relationship Work")

I wanted to continue with the Honesty talk because, though I think most of us consider ourselves to be honest people, we're actually quite often BIG FAT LIARS;) and we don't realize how much this damages our relationships. Last time I focused on I've kept things from partners in the...

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04/29/2010 - 20:43
jodijett

On Being Pretty....

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It took me awhile to post this blog because it's one that makes me squirm. That and I don't have it wrapped up in a nice bow with a perfect ending.

I'm talking about feeling the pressure to be beautiful (on the outside) and how it can effect feelings of self-worth. I don't like opening up about this because it's something I feel I should be over by now (yes, I'm judging myself)...

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04/11/2010 - 10:43
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Letting Someone Else Set the Tone

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I've done this most of my life: Look to the other person/people in the room to see how I should be acting and responding in any given situation. It may sound pathetic and weak, as a "strong, liberated woman" would be able to define herself. Alas, it's still true.

WHERE DOES THIS COME FROM?
Growing up with a therapist as a father, you'd think I would have...

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03/31/2010 - 14:53
jodijett

The Secret to Making a Relationship Work...

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I've figured it out! How to make a relationship work and last, that is. I've been married almost an entire year now so I think I'm qualified to call myself an expert, don't you? Well, truth is that if I hadn't figured this out (or, more accurately, been informed via our therapist over the years), we would never have stayed together & gotten married in the first place....

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03/21/2010 - 15:48
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Entrapment, Ultimatums & Violet Beauregarde

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I was sitting at a coffee shop the other day and overheard the craziest thing...A young woman was telling her friend that she was happy about being pregnant because "I was hoping to trap him" (I assume she means her boyfriend.)

The thought of trapping a guy with a pregnancy (fake or real) is appalling to many of us. Like Joan Cusack in High Fidelity, we are "SHOCKED" at...

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03/13/2010 - 19:58
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John Mayer: Friend or Foe?? & Does "Sorry" Make It Okay?

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You may be surprised to see a gal like me (who is all "Go women!" in life) ask this question. But, shouldn't we be fair and look at both sides of the story before declaring someone a D-bag? I say yes!

Johnny boy gets such a bad rap but what has he really done to warrant such animosity? Are we all just haters because we wish we could have him but know we can't...

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03/04/2010 - 13:41
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Hot & Bothered (But not in the way you think...)

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All this talking about sex (see prior post) has me hot and bothered...But NOT in a sexual way.

I grew up in the Midwest and spent many years entrenched in a religious community that believed men were the kings of the house (as God was the master of man) and that it was a woman's job to please him. And there was/is some pretty strong scripture to back up this belief.

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02/24/2010 - 23:20
jodijett

Women Who "Own" Their Sexuality...What does that mean???

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Over the years this statement has meant different things to me. Sometimes I thought of it more in terms of what it didn't mean. As in, a woman who "Owned" her sexuality wasn't a prude who had to wait until she was in love to get it on. She didn't have any such restrictions. Women have sexual desires just like men, I'd say, so why can't we get them met like guys do? Why can't we...

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02/07/2010 - 22:08
jodijett

Thank You vs Sorry...and what it says about you

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Say you and a random stranger arrive at an entrance way simultaneously and only one of you can fit through the door at a time. What do you do?

Then, say the other person steps back and offers you entry first. Do you say "Thank you" and walk through, or "I'm sorry" and smile nervously with your head down, attempting to pass as quickly as possible so as not to inconvenience anyone? Or, do...

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01/21/2010 - 22:24
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