WHAT BRAD DIDN'T GIVE JEN

Brad was unhappy with the relationship (yes, I know I'm writing as if I had the inside scoop...Maybe I do!). It didn't happen over night...it was a build up over the years.

Jen has mentioned in interviews that she gave too much of and lost herself in the relationship. I think Brad felt suffocated because she, admittedly, was too dependent on him for her happiness.

The manly thing to do would have been to tell her as soon as he started feeling that way. But, instead, he ran from the problem and found someone else who didn't have the same issue.

Why would he do that? A logical thinking mind would say, "Well, this is going to be really hard because she's going to cry and I'm going to feel like a piece of crap. But, I think Jen would prefer I give her a chance to change rather than completely blindsiding her with a breakup. And, who knows, maybe she'll work through her issues."

And why didn't he do that? He was a scared little boy and was looking at the small picture. He wasn't willing to face temporary discomfort in order to give Jen a chance to change or at least an opportunity to obtain closure. And he's not alone...SO many guys do the same thing.

So, he ran. He ran and found someone who seemed to be everything Jen wasn't... Angelina seemed independent and Brad thought that, if he were with her, he wouldn't have to deal with Jen's dependency issues.

So, Ang didn't have the same issues as Jen and everything was perfect, right? I don't think so. I'm pretty sure Angelina came with a set of her own problems (maybe even more intense than Jen's). And, what's Brad going to do...Run everytime he's in a relationship with a woman who has issues? Well, I hope he's got endurance because every one of us has them at one time or another.

My challenge to Brad and all men (and women) is this: Man up!! If you're unhappy in a relationship, tell the person. Don't just run and hide. Give her the opportunity to know what she's doing that's a turn-off...she may have no idea she's doing it. And give yourself the opportunity to feel like you handled the situation in a manly (vs wussy) manner.